Learning to Ride: A Beginner’s Intro to Ethical Shopping

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As we head into the biggest shopping season of the year, it’s easy to get caught up in the stress and excitement associated with the holidays especially when it comes to our buying habits. It’s not just about how much money we spend, but how we choose to spend it. Today I’m pleased and honored to share a guest post from Brooke Fontoura, blog manager of the Root Collective, about how we can make our buying choices more consciously. (This post may contain affiliate links. Thank you for your support.)

They say you never forget how to ride a bike. Once you’ve learned, it cannot be unlearned.

The same can be said of conscious consumerism. Because once you’ve seen the atrocities that occur daily in many garment factories across the globe, you cannot unsee it. Poor working conditions, low wages, child labor, etc.

It sticks with you.

And that’s a pretty scary thing. Because you’re left feeling overwhelmed, hopeless, and lost. Like a five year old on a bicycle.

But the best thing about learning to ride a bike… is that there are training wheels.

Becoming an ethical shopper isn’t always easy. It takes knowledge, effort, and a whole mess of patience. It takes honesty, persistence, and heart. Like any new challenge, it needs to be met with understanding. It’s easy to say that you are going to completely change your shopping habits overnight, but the reality can become a bit less easy. (This may or may not be from my own experience of picking up and then putting down the same LBD ten times at a fast fashion outlet, my conscious and vanity competing with each other.)

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Below are some (what I hope will be) helpful suggestions and tips for riding through the murky world of shopping. Remember to keep your helmet on and don’t stop peddling.

  • Keep calm and think of why you’re doing this: Be real with yourself. Ask yourself, “Why am I committed to changing my purchasing habits?” Is there a personal story that effected you? What was it about that story that caused you to rethink how you spend your money? Keep that in mind when you shop. Remember why.
  • Do your research: Researching isn’t just for term papers. Like any important change in life, researching is going to be the golden rule in your journey to an ethical closet. Knowing where your goods come from is important. It may seem overwhelming at first, but you’ll be surprised at the amount of resources a simple Google search can yield. And always read your labels. (I suggest this post from The Art of Simple for a handy list of awesome, ethically sourced companies.)
  • Ask questions: Don’t be afraid to raise your hand. Generally speaking, a quality ethical company will be transparent about their supply chain. However, if while researching a company, you find that they may not be as see-through as you’d like – ask! Ask where they source their goods from, how their workers are treated, or anything else you can’t seem to find the answer to.
  • Don’t beat yourself up: Life is tough. Some of us have a flock of kids in the backseat, others are college students with not a lot of spending money, while others are in the somewhere between. Do what you can. Don’t feel awful about yourself if you find that one of your favorite companies may not be on the ethical shopper’s good list. We’ve all made mistakes before and that’s okay. It’s part of the learning process. Instead of buying from that brand, search for an ethical company with similar products. If that search is taking a bit of time, try buying used products from that brand at a local thrift shop while you wait. (There are also awesome online used clothing stores. The Root Collective featured some for our weekly blog series, #FashionFriday.)
  • Take it one step at a time: What do you normally buy most? Scarves? What do you need at the moment? A good pair of shoes? Look for an ethical supplier (like The Root Collective!). After that, incorporate something else – like jewelry, then handbags, etc. When you make one step, you’ll start making more and then it all becomes second nature. (Also, many companies offer more than one fashion category. Your search for ethically sourced leggings can lead you to dresses, skirts, hats, and more!)
  • Sharing is caring: Share your findings with others. Often times, shoppers feel discouraged by what they feel is a lack of options. They simply don’t know that there is another choice out there for them other than what they see in the stores, on T.V., or on a billboard. They may already know of the abuse within the fashion industry, but don’t know what they can do themselves. When you talk about your favorite new ethical fashion brand or wear your new earrings to the office Christmas party, share the story behind your purchase and let everyone know how they can contribute to the change.


Taking on a new way of life is frightening stuff and starting an ethical fashion journey is no exception. It’s a big step, a genuine step, one with the opportunity to create real change. It may be a bumpy road but you’ll notice the difference with each turn of the peddle. And, donned in your ethically sourced fashion lovelies, you’ll look pretty great doing it.

Brooke photo

Brooke Fontoura is the blog manager for The Root Collective, an ethical fashion company with a mission for good. She’s a tea drinking, chocolate loving, book reading girl next door who pins more things on Pinterest than she actually makes. A fair trade activist and animal lover, she can usually be found singing silly sings out of tune with her little one. She also has difficulties writing her own bio.

Don’t forget that The Root Collective is offering the coupon code JOYTOTHEWORLD that is valid from Friday to Tuesday for 25% off your purchase! (Don’t worry, all the artisans have been paid in full.)

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Why I Love Thanksgiving (in some ways more than Christmas)


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Thanksgiving is probably one of the least acknowledged holidays in America. If it weren’t for massive amounts of food and football I’m not sure anyone would remember. Maybe it’s because it’s one of the few holidays that is harder to commercialize. It’s a holiday about giving thanks, which doesn’t exactly lend itself to buying things.

Regardless of what you believe about Thanksgiving as it was celebrated and recorded at Plymouth Plantation, the idea of a day set aside to give thanks has been around for thousands of years. So why are we so terrible at it?

I love Thanksgiving. When I was a kid, it was marked by a long trip to Boston to visit my mother’s family. Much stress usually surrounded this trip, which I better understand now that I’m a mom. But I still looked forward to it. (Something else I try to keep in mind, even though I’m now a mom). But it feels like we don’t give Thanksgiving a fair chance. We might post a cute quote to Facebook or a picture of a food laden table to Instagram, but mostly our feeds and lives are filled with the preparation for Christmas. Now we’re even shopping on Thanksgiving Day!

What happened to giving thanks? Wasn’t that the point? We gather with our families to celebrate the joy of being together and how wonderful it is that we have each other. We prepare and enjoy special foods to represent the many good and sweet things that are in our lives. Most importantly, we give prayers of thanks and gratitude to the source of all good things, our Father God. No gifts are exchanged, just the enjoyment of the presence of family and friends.


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Really this should prepare us for a whole season of gratitude leading up to Christmas. After all, God sending his son, Jesus, should instill in us an immense amount of gratitude. I think it’s a shame that the materialized Christmas gets a month or more, and Thanksgiving gets a single day, really closer to 10 or 12 hours before the Black Friday sales start.

So if you can, don’t let Thanksgiving end after the dishes are washed and leftovers put away. Spend Advent this year focusing on gratitude.  Rather than handing our kids the latest toy catalogue to peruse and circle favorites, encourage them to make lists of things for which they are thankful.

I know the word blessing is getting a bad reputation in some Christian circles but I can’t coming back to the children’s song “Count Your Blessings”

Count Your Blessings, name them one by one. Count your blessings, see what God has done.

For children, the physical things we have are easier to see. Encourage them to go further. Then instead of papering the house with their Christmas lists, engage them in making lists of things they could do for others as we approach Christmas. How can we show our gratitude for all that good things God has given us, whether material or spiritual, by serving others?

I’ll leave you with these words from Madame Blueberry as we speed into the biggest buying holiday of the year.

Because a thankful heart
Is a happy heart
We’re glad for what we have
That’s an easy way to start
For the love that He shares
As He listens to our prayers
That’s why we say thanks everyday
That’s why we say thanks everyday

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A New Challenge: Fit2B Challenged

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I’ve been using Fit2B Studio consistently for almost a year. I’ve reviewed Fit2B Beginning and Fit2B Advancing. I’ve highlighted the Relaxation Pathway, Tummy Safe Path to Great Abs and the Pathway to Amazing Arms. I’ve created my own schedule and combined Fit2B with Couch to 5K training. But I haven’t tackled Fit2B Challenged, until now.

The Layout

There are currently 12 Fit2B Challenged combos. I’m planned to tackle a four week program: three combos, 2 days a week walking (light cardio or weights would also work), a stretching stretching/relaxation day, and a rest day. I’ll probably take a bit of a break between Christmas and New Years, but I wanted to finish the year out strong fitness-wise.

Do You Feel Ready?

Fit2B Challenged is aptly named. In fact, just looking at it, it feels more like Fit2B Insane (which not coincidentally is the title of a couple of the workouts).

These combos are tough, pretty much a full hour or more of movement. This used to be my regular goal. Now it feels totally unattainable. A whole hour of exercise, that would mean doing it before my kids get up and in spite of the gathering darkness, they are getting up earlier and earlier these days.

Take It a Bit at a Time

Now, let it be said that you don’t have to do these in one sitting if you don’t have the time or are not yet physically fit enough. It still counts. Your body still acknowledges the increased effort even if you can’t do it all at once. When I had gestational diabetes I needed to exercise as much as possible to help maintain my blood sugar. But I didn’t have the energy to exercise for more than 15 or 20 minutes at a time. So I would try to do some exercise after every meal. I often got 40-60 minutes, just not all at once.

However, sometimes a challenge is worth the battle especially at a time when healthy eating and exercise tend to take a hiatus. So maybe you can’t exercise every day, but can you manage three times a week? I’ll be endeavoring to stick to my five days a week goal, but at a minimum I need to accomplish my three challenging combos each week.

Come back to check out my first attempts at these difficult combinations. Will you join me in the challenge?

I’ll be taking a week off from posting about Fit2B next week, but we’ll pick up again the first week in December as we tackle Fit2B Challenged!



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The Thing We Have In Common–Imperfection: 31 Days to Clean


What a perfect topic in honor of my long hiatus from this series. I had hoped to finish this series by the end of the year, but I know that just isn’t going to happen. Because there is far too much that I need to do that doesn’t involve cleaning my home. However, the holidays are all about hospitality and togetherness. So I feel this series is still very valid, otherwise I’d be waiting until after the New Year when we all suddenly want to make our lives perfect by making totally unrealistic resolutions.

I once heard someone say that bloggers are part of the problem. We make life look so perfect. Well, I don’t think I’m often accused of that. But maybe it’s because I tend to lean in the other extreme. I can be brutally honest at times, so much so that we get phone calls at our house from concerned relatives. Really, I’m fine. I’m just trying to be real. Because anyone who is currently parenting children knows it can be rough. We all have our own strengths. For some ladies this is a clean home. Their houses always seem to look so put together. That’s not me. There are always toy trains on the floor. (These are more ubiquitous than Legos at our house), and typically plates in the sink and on the kitchen table. Baskets of laundry, sometimes both clean and dirty, can be found in the living room, kitchen and upstairs hallway. Even if I’ve just cleaned the bathroom, it won’t look or smell that way after no less than 15 minutes because that’s just how life with kids is. I honestly believe it takes me longer to clean the bathroom than it actually stays clean.

But I digress, this is a series to encourage us to clean. The point is, none of us is perfect and demanding perfect of ourselves is both unfair and unrealistic.

Mary Challenge

What are some areas of your life that you’ve been striving for perfection, perhaps due to comparison?  Pray about these areas and ask God to replace any lies with truth. The truth is, I am a homeschooling mom with two kids, ages 2 and 5. We live in a small, half a double. These are not excuses, they are facts. Because we are home a lot, my house gets messy. My children can pick up after themselves somewhat, but are too young to help share the full burden. This is my life right now. I am a good mom and a good wife, the condition of my kitchen floor is not a reflection of my worth as a human being. My house will never be clean and perfectly put together for as long as I have children living in my home. That’s OK. I’m trying to learn to embrace the imperfection and love the children anyway.

Martha Challenge

Clean and Organize electronics, shine the wood furniture.

This is a great challenge. But, if it causes you more stress than it produces peace, feel free not to do it. Because you need to do what gives you strength. If having that DVD shelf more organized makes you feel like your world is just a little more together, than more power to you. But if you really don’t care how it looks and it doesn’t bother you, then don’t invest energy in something that doesn’t provide you with any positive benefit.

As we approach a time of year when it’s really easy to become obsessed with glossy, magazine pictures of perfectly organized and decorated holiday homes, let’s remember that none of us really has that. But having people in your home, whether loving family or dear friends is worth any mess it produces. Experience matters more than image. Be hospitable, even if you don’t feel like your house is up to it, make sure your heart is.


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Priorities: 30 Days to Clean

The 6 List: 31 Days to Clean

The Curse – What We’re Up Against: 31 Days to Clean

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Feeling Overwhelmed: 31 Days to Clean

Limitations: 31 Days to Clean


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Request a Do-Over: Mindset for Moms


Ha! (Sorry, that’s the first thing that came to mind.) I wish for a do-over often. I need to verbalize that to my kids more. When I yell for something that doesn’t deserve it. When I see the look of shock and hurt on my daughter’s face when I totally lose it over something trivial. When my son looks blankly at me when I request he pick up his own mess and throws a fit. Followed by me doing the same.

I think the best part about this is that we teach our kids that it’s Ok to admit you are wrong. Humility is such a difficult thing to grasp, especially in our culture that promotes self.  I’ve always been a little bit afraid of admitting to my kids that I’m wrong. I thought it might make them feel insecure to think that mommy didn’t have it all together. But now I’m not so sure. I need to model humility and repentance for them or how will they ever learn?

I also need to give them the opportunity for do-overs, but with a good attitude. When I have to repeat myself I often get irritable. It feels like no one bothers to listen to me unless I’m yelling, which I hate. (Both the not listening and the yelling.) I can often be heard telling my kids to adjust their attitudes or tone and try again.


“Let’s try that again. Say ‘Please, Mommy, may I have more milk?’”

One of the hardest things about having little ones at home, (or older ones as well if you homeschool) is the constant presence of each other. As an introvert I find myself drained and often irritable because just being with them twenty four hours a day starts to wear me down. But being together this much also means that we have to deal with conflict, we can’t just avoid it. I have to work on being more patient and understanding. My kids have their own issues as well. It’s all part of the painful but necessary process of making us more like Jesus. Or at least it can be if we let it.

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