Getting Ready for Baby

It’s been a little overwhelming lately, realizing that our baby will be here in around 6 weeks. That being said, I can hardly wait. This past weekend we were trying to focus on doing a few basic tasks to get ready for the baby.

Pre-Installing the car seat: We are trying to decide if the new car seat will be for our daughter or the new baby. That will be determined by how it fits rear facing. My daughter’s car seat was a bit snug rear facing, forcing the passenger seat to have less leg room than we would have liked. (It worked OK for me, but I’m on 5’2’). If the new car seat takes up less space rear facing, then it will go to the new baby. If not, our daughter will get it, and the baby will use her old one. (By old, I do mean less than three years old). It appears based on the preliminary install that the car seat will go to our son, at least for the next year or two.

Preparing baby room: The baby’s room has become a bit of a dumping ground for the past few months, but we’ve slowly been starting to change that. Now the focus is on getting the bed made, hanging any last minute decorations and putting away baby clothes. I’ve received some handmedowns from a few generous friends, so the larger size ones may have to be packed away until later since they won’t all fit in the dresser. I also need to wash the handmedowns as well as my stash of infant cloth diapers currently being stored in the attic. Fortunately I’ve already begun cleaning the few neutral clothes we have left from when our daughter was a newborn. I’m still in the process of washing and putting away some of the clothes but other than that the room is close to being ready. Two large storage totes are housing the clothes and diapers that the baby has yet to grow into. The bed is made and the mobile is installed. Only some vacuuming and a few other small details (like hanging a bit of wall décor) and the room will be ready. Maybe now that the baby’s room is ready the baby will be ready to come out that much sooner.

52 Weeks to an Organized Home Week 3-Organize Pantry Spices and Food Storage

This project is actually a natural segway for me, given that I tackled my Lazy Susan cabinet which is primarily used to storage can goods, as part of last week’s challenge. I usually sort through my pantry periodically but it seems to be in a continual state of chaos. This is especially unsightly because my pantry is completely open to the rest of kitchen (though I hope to remedy that eventually.)

I modified this challenge slightly. Since most of our pantry is visible and not more than one or two items deep I decided to dispense with the inventory. I know that I wouldn’t keep up with such a list so I’m focusing on keeping things organized. I threw out old food (mostly ancient granola my husband kept promising he was going to eat and some forgotten chocolate cookie crumbs). Then I organized items based on frequency of use and kind of item; putting frequently used items on lower shelves and grouping baking supplies together, etc.

My future action item regarding this portion of the challenge is to get large buckets to store my flour. I buy flour at Sam’s Club in 25 lb bags which I store on the bottom of my pantry. (You won’t see them in the picture because they are under the kitchen table, pushed up against the wall, along with infrequently used appliances like the ice cream maker.) I know that storing flour in bags is just asking for trouble, but I couldn’t find large enough buckets to store flour in. I have a few smaller containers that I use once the flour level has dropped below half in the bags, but nothing that will whole an entire 25 lb bag. The ones I find online are very expensive and that doesn’t even factor in the shipping costs. So for now I’ll have to continue with my ill advised methods, and keep looking for a long term solution. Fortunately, 25 lbs of flour doesn’t last a really long time at our house anyway.

I also organized the spice cupboard. I can’t reach the top shelf without a stool so I put rarely used items up there. Then I organized the two remaining shelves with the most frequently used items in the front, and trying to categorize a little bit. I also threw out any spices that hadn’t been used in several years or that we concluded we don’t like or give my husband indigestion. Now the trick is just keeping things as organized as they are at the moment. On we go to Week 4.

Pantry After

Anti-Student Loans, Anti-Credit Card and other Financial Holier than Thou Attitudes

In the past two years, as we’ve tried to navigate the difficult road of living on one income I’ve immersed myself in the financial blogosphere. It has been an interesting experience to say the least. Some of the philosophies made sense to me. Avoid debt. That was one my parents taught me as a young child. They told me two things were worth going into debt for, a home and an education. My parents each finished college thanks at least in part to some student loans. Though back then student loan rates were in the 1-2% range and savings accounts were earning upwards of 17% interest. (Hard to imagine a world like that, huh? My husband’s student loans are at 6.8% and our savings account doesn’t even earn 1% interest anymore). My parents also had a mortgage on each of the homes that they lived in over the years, including their current one. Granted, back then getting a mortgage was harder; underwriting could take months and a decent down payment was a necessity. My dad was lucky enough to have a good job. He was never unemployed for any period of time during my childhood, though seemingly inevitable layoffs often loomed. He had little or no help from his parents in attending college and yet managed to get a degree in chemical engineering, graduating in 3.5 years instead of the usual 4. (When was the last time you heard of that?) He went into a field that he enjoyed and was talented in, but that also had reasonable earning potential. (Something I’m sure he kept in mind when he took out some student loans to help cover his tuition). We lived in a modest house in relation to my father’s income. My parents kept a sizeable savings account. They always paid cash for cars, never buying new. So avoiding debt made sense to me.

But then the other popular financial blog topics made their appearance. Don’t use credit cards, they are evil. Well, I can understand the potential problems with credit cards. My parents had taught me about interest and how in the end you owe more than an item is often worth when it is bought on credit. But my parents definitely had credit cards. They weren’t often used, but when they were, the balance was paid off each month. I got my first credit card right after I was married at 20. My husband has just paid off past credit card debt and swore never again to use a credit card. So we compromised. We each got a card for the purpose of building our credit. (Yes, I know there are other ways to do this, but I didn’t have the fear and hatred of credit cards that many in the financial blogosphere do). My card was used for gasoline only. His card was used for groceries. For everything else we used the debit card. This helped us better track our budget in the early days of low income. (I believe he was making $25,000 before taxes and I was a fulltime student). We never carried a balance and we never spent money we didn’t have in the bank. We treated them like debit cards.

Then there is the infamous, college is too expensive and student loans aren’t worth it argument. Possible solutions including working part to fulltime while in school and/or opting not to go to college until you had saved enough to afford it. Now I grew up in a family that placed great value on education. My parents are probably some of the last of a generation who believe that college is not just there to help you get a good job, but to help you become an educated, well-rounded person. (My mother is a perfect example. She was the first generation in family to go to college, yet she ultimately became a stay-at-home wife and mother. Something she has rarely, if ever regretted. But never has she spoken of her college education as a waste. She is one of the smartest, best educated people I know. She has never let that go to waste even if she isn’t in the traditional workforce). Which school would give me the most value for the education was deciding factor when I was doing the college search. Ultimately I chose a school that I loved, and who offered a good financial aid and scholarship package. However, it was not the least expensive option. After discussing it with my parents we concluded that finances were not the only consideration. For that matter neither was prestige. The question was, where would I learn the most and where would I get the best possible education? I lived on a small quiet campus were partying was rare. Most students there were there to study and seek other academic pursuits. I probably didn’t take advantage of extra curricular activities and networking events as I could have. But I learned a great deal, much of it in subjects outside my major that have affected who I am as a person in very positive ways. I also managed to graduate a semester early, saving more money, something I couldn’t have done at a larger or more prestigious school. I consider it money well spent. (Oh, and thanks in part to my incredibly hard work in high school and my parents support I was able to graduate loan free, even though I did qualify for some loans that I could have taken advantage of to make my experience more luxurious. Instead I worked summer jobs to pay for my yearly spending and book money.)

Now, my husband attended college at age 26, and did it all on student loans. Do we regret that? Yes and No. If he hadn’t returned to school he would probably still be making $25,000 a year in a dead end job he hated. Do I wish it had cost less? Absolutely. But at the time there was very little other choice. Looking back, he doesn’t feel that his education had the same value as mine, while in the end it did cost more. If we had it to do over again, I think we would have tried to find ways to pay off some of the bills as we went instead of waiting until the end to pay the giant balance. But we can only move forward from here. Those two bachelor’s degrees that my husband obtained have opened doors for him that he would still be banging his head against right now had he never returned to school. While our income is still relatively small (apparently we are considered legally poor by theU.S.government), his income earning potential has been significantly increased, and his work has become a source of self-value rather than a drudgery. When our children approach college age the system will likely be very different. We would like them to avoid the debt cycle, but we both still believe in the value of education. Colleges today are not always (in fact, rarely) producing well-educated, well-rounded people. Those students who emerge as mature, educated adults owe more of that to their own efforts than anything special the university system itself is offering. The education is still there for the taking, you just to look harder and dig deeper for it. Otherwise you could very well graduate with a piece of paper and very little actual education.

My husband and I also purchased a home with no downpayment. Was it ill-advised? Perhaps. Is it frustrating to see our home with so little equity, even after 5 years? Definitely. But I can’t say we regret the purchase of this home. With rising rents and other local housing issues, we would likely still be living in our two bedroom apartment in a very sketchy neighborhood and probably paying almost as much in rent as we do now for mortgage. We’d probably be spending more for heat and electricity too. We would never have started our family.

It’s easy to stand on the outside looking in and make declarations about the financial decisions of others. Heck, I do it too sometimes. It’s hard not to. I love how much I’ve learned from the financial blogosphere. It has encouraged me to review my own values and make sure that my financial decisions reflect those values. I’ve learned about frugal practices I never would have considered before I found financial and lifestyle benefits. I now try to see my finances in a more long term way. It would be easy to make the minimum payments on the student loans and just accept the long haul to debt freedom. It feels so overwhelming at times.   But I’ve learned that making small sacrifices now can mean reaping rewards later on. I now see a debt free lifestyle as more appealing than a more luxurious one. (I’d rather live in our little house with no mortgage than move to a bigger one and face mortgage payments for the rest of our lives).

But I’ve also learned to take financial philosophies with a grain of salt and see how they fit into my own life. I still hate the idea of ever having a car payment, but it may very well be something we have to resort to in a few years. I think credit cards are a tool to be used for convenience or even profit (let me tell you how often those cash back checks have come in very handy at times we needed a little extra money most).  Sometimes it’s easier to have a holier than though attitude regarding certain financial issues like credit cards, car payments, student loans and mortgage down payments. (Hey, even mortgages sometimes. When people tell me how they paid cash for their houses and I should too or I’m making a financial mistake I try not to laugh. In our area, with our income, I might have become a homeowner just in time to retire by the time we saved enough to pay cash for a home, even a small fixer upper in a rough neighborhood). I’m finally to the point where I don’t even comment on discussions on the above topics anymore. The cacophony of voices all of whom agree with each other is loud enough. Any compromise I might try to express would only be shouted down. Besides, I don’t need to defend my financial decisions to anyone by myself and my husband, much less the anonymous blogosphere.

The truth is I’m Ok with my credit cards. I’d like to pay down our mortgage and student loans faster. No, I’m not saving 10-15 % of my income toward retirement, nor do I have 20% a month going into my emergency fund/savings account. I don’t have a year’s worth of income saved in the bank and it will probably be a long time before I will. But I do have an amazing two and a half year old daughter that I love and who drives me crazy. I have a baby boy due to make his appearance in the next month or so. I have a husband who has a job he enjoys but is still working towards a career he will love and I have the rare opportunity to be a stay-at-home mom who dreams of being a professional writer. I like watching some TV in the evenings (online for free of course) and I like to read just to fun, even when it isn’t necessarily educational or informative. I may not follow all the traditional financial tenets and I certainly won’t be moving to my retirement villa inTuscanyat age 50, but I have a life I enjoy and a family I love. Oh yeah, and I also pay all my bills on time. What more could I ask for?

The Child Who Wouldn’t Sleep: The Sequel

We thought we were out of the wood regarding sleep issues. After sleep training our daughter at thirteen months we figured that things would only get easier from here. Now her apparent awareness of bladder needs is waking her up multiple times a night. But last night was the worst yet. At 11 p.m. we were heading to bed and she woke up asking to use the potty. We sat her down, redressed her and returned her to bed. Then she began to cry insisting that she had to go again. We explained to her as calmly as possible that she didn’t have to go again because she had just gone. But she became even more hysterical. This led to a three hour on and off crying fest (though it felt like longer) where we sang to her, let her use the potty again (not once by twice), and my husband sat with her until he thought she was asleep. In the end we let her cry and cry and cry; all of us miserable every minute. Aside for letting her fall asleep on the potty, we were out of options. It was a very long night. Finally all three of us passed out somewhere between 1 and 2 AM (though it felt later). She hasn’t been this sleepless for almost two years. I hope it doesn’t last long or we will be a very exhausted family welcoming a new baby in a month or two.

52 Weeks to an Organized Home Week 2-Kitchen Drawers & Kitchen Cabinet Organization

I could tell from the beginning that this was going to be a huge task. I have quite a few cabinets and drawers, most of them overflowing. I have reorganized these before, yet somehow it never seems to last long so this challenge was certainly going to it me where it hurt.

My most used cabinets are in a pretty organized state. But others, like the corner cabinet that stores plastic food storage gets pretty messy from time to time.  I decided to mark my cheap mark my cheap plastic food storage with permanent marker so that each container has a corresponding lid. Hopefully this will save a lot of time that I waste trying to find lids that match containers. This was also a good time to dispose of any containers that didn’t have lids. That cabinet has always been too full, so sorting it was a real challenge.  But I either recycled or donated things that don’t ever get used and rarely used items were relegated to the top shelf.


Under the kitchen sink. Now there is a wasteland of cleaning products. Dumping old cleaning products seems wasteful and unhealthy so as a result I have half empty bottles of so many different kinds of cleaners. Many are used for very few tasks (like Goo Gone) but crucial when needed so I can’t quite part with them. I’ve also developed a collection of reuseable cleaning rags. But now things are organized by frequency of use and either empty and mostly empty containers have been recycling. Plus my cleaning rags are nicely folded in the pile next to the appropriate cleaning products (dust rags in one pile, resuseable swiffer socks in another etc.)





Now you may not be able to tell from the picture, but I got rid of a lot of things in the corner cabinet so that mostly what you see is what is in there. That way there aren’t things stuffed way in the back that never get used and are completely forgotten.  As for the cabinet under the sink. Some of you may remember from a previous post that we strive to use very few paper towels. This roll under the sink currently represents the last roll in the house. We only use it for cooking bacon or other really unsanitary jobs where cleaning rags won’t do. I’m hoping to avoid replacing it for as long as possible. By having it under the counter, we aren’t tempted to grab a paper towel out of instinct when a rag will do and it gives me more space on my countertop.

While I didn’t have time to completely reorganize all of my cabinets (several of them were already fairly organized anyway), focusing on the worst offenders has made my kitchen more functional already.

The Final Trials of the Last Trimester

As I make my way through the third and final trimester of my pregnancy, I was finally beginning to feel like I had a handle on things. I’ve been managing my gestational diabetes fairly well, increasing my exercise frequency and still managing to work part time. However, during the last week a severe lower right quadrant back and hip pain has been plaguing me. Over the weekend it got the point where I could barely walk. Putting any weight at all on my right leg resulted in excruciating pain. This pain seems to come and go, and I’ve yet to figure out what exactly is causing it.

I feel fine when I’m sitting but when I stand up it’s agonizing. Standing for long periods of time produces some leg numbness but no back or hip pain. But obviously I can’t just stand all day to avoid aggravating the pain and neither can I sit all day and never get up. It seems like if I keep moving it does help so I’m trying to keep exercising. But getting constantly up and down from a sitting position (such as working at my computer and then taking my daughter to the potty) is the absolute worst.

I finally broke down and made a chiropractor appointment. Chiropractic treatments during my first pregnancy helped with work related back pain and enabled me to stay at my job until close to my due date. But it did get very expensive with all of those co-pays. This time around I was hoping not to need to additional support since our specialist co-pays have gone up. But if I don’t get some relief soon I’ll be virtually bed ridden by the time this baby gets here. Now I’m just hoping to survive until Thursday when I see the chiropractor and I’m hoping he’ll have some answers for me and an effective treatment plan. Wish me luck.

Trying Everyday Minerals

I first heard about Everyday Minerals on Keeper of the Home. I’d been slowly trying to transition my life to a greener/more frugal lifestyle. While the most frugal makeup option was to stick with healthy moisturizers and just let my skin show off its natural glow, pregnancy hormones had other plans for my skin. Fortunately I had already opted for the oil cleansing method and the occasional use of California Baby Tea Tree shampoo and wash. All of my normal acne treatments were out of the question which made me wonder how healthy they were to begin with if they were off limits during pregnancy. During this time also became more concerned about the toxins in various makeup products. My usual Cover Girl and Almay products gave me cause for concern when I looked them up on the EWG’s Skin Deep Cosmetic Database.

While I knew that my budget wouldn’t allow me to replace all of my existing toiletry and makeup products with organic/eco-friendly options, I was more concerned during pregnancy. I mostly tried not to wear too much makeup. But the irregular condition of my skin combined with my tanking self-esteem made the occasion use of makeup advisable. At Christmas I received the concealer kit as a gift and for the most part I was pleased with the coverage. It looked natural and actually concealed. (As a side note, I don’t love the travel applicator as the plastic seems rough and uneven which is a little uncomfortable on the skin around my eyes). So I took a little bit of money I was given as a Christmas gift and purchased a trial set to try. Combined with free samples, promo deals and free shipping I was able to try a smattering of various products for around $30. I’m only sorry the new Lippie colors aren’t available yet. But fortunately one basic shade is included in my “No Makeup” Makeup Kit! 

I’m excited to report back with reviews of these products once I receive them and begin testing them out.